I frequently get the “Why are you so dressed up?” question. Especially at work. It sounds very accusatory, doesn’t it? WHY are you so dressed up? It’s a strange question. And I don’t think there’s a perfect response. Even saying, “I’m not,” invites argument. When someone walks into an environment that we feel is a “non-event”, such as work and they challenge that status by taking a little effort into looking put together, does it make us challenge ourselves? It’s a bit of a snark, actually.
If someone really meant to compliment you, wouldn’t they just say, “You look nice today” If I am looking polished & professional, and you are not, I’m not about to comment on how underdressed you are. “Wow, aren’t we looking casual today!” Could you imagine?! As far back as I can remember, I have never been comfortable wearing sweatpants, I’ve never even owned a pair (the horror) For me, there is no real superhuman effort between putting on a t-shirt and pajama pants versus a t-shirt, jeans and a blazer. It takes me the same amount of time, and it reminds me that I am not at home, I am in public and presentable. You never know who you are going to run into. When people underdress they actually bring a lot of attention to themselves. And there is a difference between casual and sloppy.
So, my response to this question is with a question “why not get dressed up?” To me, it’s how I feel most comfortable. I would feel uncomfortable going to work in a sweatsuit or looking like I’m going to clean my house.
What’s wrong with looking chic? So yes, I’m wearing a statement necklace to work because I really do like it. Has it really become that rare to be well dressed in our society? I revel in the opportunity to infuse some serious swank into my work wardrobe.
I leave you with this quote from the authority on dressing well, “Dress shabbily and they remember the dress; dress impeccably and they remember the woman.” – Coco Chanel